User blog comment:Samantha76/I don't know what to do./@comment-17708066-20170907125613/@comment-4107522-20170907173017

If I might add to this, you have to understand that criticism is a double-edged sword. If someone complains that you criticized their content, whining that they criticized your criticism turns it into a circular event.

With that said, I understand the frustration of trying to give criticism and people getting upset that you did. However, there is an easy way to give criticism without appearing as a jerk, no matter how blunt the statement: balance. When criticizing, it's easy to tear something down, but to be a fair critic, you also need to make note of the positives, and more importantly give suggestions on how to improve. The most I saw you give in positive criticism to the Randolph character was "The colours are OK".

There's always a process with both comments that point out flaws and strengths.

1. State what is good or bad. You have that down.

2. Explain why something is good or bad. WHY is it a bad thing to have the head be so small on the large body? The creator needs a reason to change it other than appeasing someone they don't know.

3. Give suggestions on how to improve and/or what you'd like to see more of. Giving someone more options to choose from is always helpful.

Not everyone's going to appreciate what you have to say obviously. A lot of people can't take criticism, but that's on them if they react badly to something that's a perfectly respectful comment.

When it comes to respect, people pretend it's something you can just say "It's earned" when the fact is that someone always has to give the first gesture of respect. Everyone should be respectful to everyone regardless of the circumstance. Why? Because it is childish to be disrespectful to someone, even if they are disrespectful to you. If you have no blame, anyone who tries to blame you will be wrong and you will be noticed for acting respectful. If not, then whether or not you're right in what you say, people will care less because you don't act like an adult about it.

Going alongside Silverknight's comment about Admins... well... honestly yeah, they are here to help. Most people here are willing to help,and Admins especially are a great place to start if you want a nudge in the right direction of who to hang out with.

Yes we all do a lot of roleplaying, but we also do a lot of art, music, videos, etc. Even then, roleplays often turn into stories. If you're not into roleplays, that's perfectly fine,  but there is more to get into. We have discussions about characters all the time, things we like, and things we criticize.

I'm sure many of us can look at this and go "I never said anything rude to you" and/or "I never got approached by you". It's a constant stream of new stuff that appears on the group. We're all here and you can ask anyone to read your stuff, hang out, criticize, or just acknolwedge that you're there.

I'm not going to harp on any more rude things you said here because I understand you're frustrated and just wanted to get that all out. At the end of the day, there are still many options still available, far too many to just decide to give up now.